Saturday, January 28, 2017

Preparing for that First Dance


It is a rite of passage.  All young men go through it.  He may be the most talented athlete on the team or the smartest lad in the class.  He can be as thin as a toothpick or so fluid you must look twice to be certain his isn’t linked with the ball.  Regardless, when the time comes for him to get all dressed up for the dance that celebrates graduation from primary school, most youngsters suddenly become all thumbs.  Fortunately, you bought him a snazzy suit from Hudson’s Bay; the one he’d worn so proudly when he performed at the county talent show just last month. 

And why shouldn’t he suddenly become so discombobulated?  For the first time in his young life he is judged by criteria over which he has little or no control.  After all, he comes into this new stage of his life just as he also first enters that phase of puberty when his body grows rapidly but at uncoordinated rates and spurts.  One day he finds he doesn’t fit into his favorite pair of pants; the next he feels his neck is so long he looks like a baby giraffe.  Worst of all, he feels that every change in his physique is painfully noticeable to those around him.  That’s why using money saving Groupons to buy clothes for his ever-changing body makes such good sense.  (Especially when they offer up to 65% off boys apparel and free shipping.)

In his mind the person most likely to take note of all these changes is the very one he is expected to escort to their first dance.  For some strange reason, the girls are suddenly taller, more graceful and poised.  They are as attractive, intelligent, and aware as he is disjointed, awkward and uncomfortable.  For the first time in his young life he feels a sense of his own seeming inadequacy at the very time he is expected to be paired up with those whom he has secretly admired from afar.  Wouldn’t anybody feel uneasy when thrust into such circumstances? 

And yet, while it may seem forever to him, this is only a brief – though painful – passing phase.  Yes, he may need to return to Hudson’s Bay for a more stylish and better fitting suit.  And he also must learn the more intricate social details needed in this expanded world.  But the shaky steps taken at his first dance serve as the foundation upon which he can build the confidence that enables him to take on the challenges that lie ahead. 



Friday, January 13, 2017

Dearest Son: Happy 10th Birthday!

It seems like it's just yesterday when I gave birth to my  second child.  I can still remember  the pain, the excitement, and the worries that I have inside me having to  take care of  two  children.  I wished then that my family was around so they could help me.    My  daughter was just  18 months   when my son was born.  It felt like I  have a twin!  It's amazing how  we, as parents, survive things that we thought we could never do but for the love of our children, we try our best to do whatever we can to help, protect and raised our kids the way we know is best for them.  I can't believe it's been almost ten years.  Our son is turning  double digits this Sunday.
According to an article I read, ten year old is an age of contradictions.  Some may tell their parents not to hug them in  public but requests snuggles at home.  I am glad that my son  doesn't  do that.  He  love  hugs and kisses, he is not embarrassed to be hugged in public.   He is the most loving guy I know and very sensitive too.  We have to watch what we say as he gets hurt by words so easily.
I noticed  that he is very vocal about his friends.  He tells me all about them and what they do in school.  I am glad about that because I want to know  everything that is  going on school  when I am not around them.  
 When it comes to  grades in school, he is more laxed than his sister.  He is a straight A student but he is okay if they are not all 100s.  I used to be strict at him about this but I realized that it was  a wrong approach so I let him learn the way that he wants effective as  long as it doesn't affect  his grades.  I know that he is as smart as his sister  is, he just don't have that patience to sit and  study  everything.
 Both of my children have their own electronics but during  school days,  they  don't use them.  They  surrender them to us, they only get it  during weekend.  I know that we have to give our children  some independence but at the same time, they still need our guidance as they are still kids.
Below is a short letter I wrote for my son.  

Dearest EJ,

As you celebrate your 10th birthday, Mom and Dad and Ate wishes you  the best of everything.  May God   grant your wishes  and that may He always bless you with  good health.  I can't believe it has been ten years since I gave birth to you.  I can't even imagine carrying an 8 pound baby inside me but  you are a great blessing to our family!   Life won't be the same without you.  I am very grateful that God took care of you, despite the  doctor's worries about your  health when you were inside me, you were born  perfectly healthy.  

As you  start spreading your wings, always remember that we love you very much!   We   will always be here for you no matter what the circumstance is.  Stay sweet and loving.  Happy birthday Sweetheart!

Love,

Mom

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